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Post by capttankona on Nov 5, 2009 15:30:13 GMT -5
Thanks for your admission, now it's Big Dog's turn. The evidence was there from the beginning. Neighbor complaints, etc. Actually, if you go over the history as was done this morning on the Lee Rogers show, this is not a failure of law enforcement, but of liberal establishments. It was all a failure of our parole system, who failed to do their job. |
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Post by JustMyOpinion on Nov 5, 2009 17:41:08 GMT -5
My son is on parole, and it has been my experience that the agents are completely over whelmed with cases, cut backs you know. For example, my son just got bounced from a rehab program yesterday, and he was calling me last night with profane remarks, threats, and tells me he was at the airport because he's not going back to jail (he told my mom he was in San Rafael). He's paranoid, angry, and I truly believe he has permanently damaged his brain by using meth, and so here we go AGAIN and until it is "official" that he has broken parole only then the parole agent will likely issue a warrant. It is always crisis management, and little preventative action. He had already broken parole a few months ago and had to serve time in Santa Rita, wonder what lovely accommodations he will be in next (already been in SQ). You know, we saw this coming based on our recent conversations with him, did his parole agent? And, for the record we saw him coming undone the time before that...
We fear for our safety now that he's back on the loose with an altered brain, and by now I am gonna guess he's so loaded on meth he has thrown himself even further into a world of psychosis. He also told us that people he'd hooked up with in recent months have a vendetta against him, and that we could be targets. I vacillate between, yeah, right, to holy crap! I hope nothing comes of this. The system SUCKS, and it's no wonder we see unstable loons on the loose.
All I can hope for is that we don't become the next headline.
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Post by capttankona on Nov 5, 2009 18:44:15 GMT -5
Dang, call his parole officer. Make some noise at the police station. Do what ever it takes to get him back into the help he requires.
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Post by mrbose on Nov 5, 2009 20:24:09 GMT -5
I suggest you do everything in your power to get him back behind bars, tape his threats inform the police his parole officer get a restraining order and a gun!
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Post by JustMyOpinion on Nov 6, 2009 16:09:28 GMT -5
capttankona, mrbose, thank you for your advice. My son called last night to "apologize" and I didn't take the call, my other half did. I know not to get too involved in his drama because if I did it would be an invitation to come around here. We are prepared for him, if you know what I mean, and as far as contacting his parole agent I thought about it and weighed out the pros and cons. If I get a restraining order, or get his parole agent involved and he catches wind of it it will make him angry, and he will feel betrayed. We are setting limits around contacting us, and yet reinforce that we care about him and hope that he chooses the right decision for himself. If he feels his family still cares he is less likely to want to get even, or pay us back for (in his mind) betraying him when he's psychotic. I know this because I have been dealing with his craziness for YEARS, though he has definitely regressed over the last three years or so. My concern is the contact he's had in prison with some pretty scary people and my biggest worry is that he has gotten in way over his head with them. This is a cat and mouse game, and it pays to be strategic, and NO, I am not naive. The MINUTE he shows up here, or loses control again I will call 911 ASAP! It will be a matter of days before he's behind bars again I can guarantee you. He'll get loaded and wind up in the street just like before. It is scary to have to deal with this crap. If he was a stanger, or friend and not my son I would take a different approach for sure, just so you know!  The system is such a mess as it is... |
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Post by mrbose on Nov 6, 2009 18:23:31 GMT -5
Ok your welcome, but don`t get fooled by apologize`s he sounds like a real loose cannon, make sure your ready to take control when he looses it as that could happen real quick.
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Post by Mink on Nov 6, 2009 22:05:59 GMT -5
JMO, I know you are doing the best for the situation- take care
I hope your son pulls through.
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Post by mrbose on Nov 6, 2009 22:46:38 GMT -5
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Post by JustMyOpinion on Nov 8, 2009 18:30:23 GMT -5
mrbose, thank you for your kindness!! My son has to find his own way, he has had so many chances, programs, incarcerations, and near successes that I have pretty much lost hope. He has a lifelong history of out of control behavior (bipolar), and as much as it sounds selfish I am starting to feel more concerned for the rest of us. My gut is, the meth use has triggered the beginning of some form of schizophrenia, or a like disorder. I have always felt the need to be guarded around him, but now that he has had exposure to some pretty rough people I am concerned that while delusional he will come around here, or his gang banger type of "bros" will show up looking to square up a bad deal. My gut warns me to keep him on friendly, but distant and clear terms. I think if we play hardball AGAIN while he is in a state of mind that is so out of control he will turn on us.
Meth is by far the worst drug out there, and when a person that has a pre-existing mental disorder uses it the results are catastrophic for all involved!
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I don't buy into his "apology" for one minute, and I don't excuse his behavior because he made some feeble attempt at luring me back into his world of insanity and game playing. Yes, I know he's tying to play us, that is ONE reason I wouldn't take the call.
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